Help for Children and Young People


Supportive, Practical, Advice & Confidential Engagement


Children who are exposed to domestic abuse may develop serious emotional, behavioural, developmental and academic problems.  As children, they may display acts of violence themselves or become withdrawn.


Children who have or are living in homes where there is domestic abuse may become depressed and have low self-esteem, resulting in varying degrees of loneliness, isolation and anxiety.  All children are unique and will cope with their experiences in different ways.




Some of the most common observable effects are:


  • Changed sleeping patterns


  • Nightmares


  • Bed wetting


  • Withdrawn or excessively clingy behaviour


  • Eating disorders


  • Self harm


  • Stress related illness


  • Depression


  • Aggressiveness


  • Disruptive behaviour


  • Lack of confidence


  • Low self esteem


  • Suicidal feelings



Others signs may be an inability to concentrate on things they would normally enjoy and a reluctance to attend school or truant, resulting in a decline in academic achievement.  Research shows that those children who are supported and given an opportunity to work through their experiences show the best recovery and go on to form good relationships in adult life. 





"Monsters In the Closet - Domestic Violence From a Child's View" by the Verizon Foundation

“Monsters,” a provocative new video, portrays the alarming impact of domestic violence on families and children, as seen through the eyes of a young girl. Produced and funded by the Verizon Foundation (USA) and supported by the National Domestic Violence Hotline, the video encourages the public to get involved in domestic violence prevention and education efforts, and also emphasizes that help for victims and their families is just a phone call away


WARNING: the content may contain material that could be upsetting for the viewer

Services Available for Children

Following a referral from our adult outreach service and completion of an initial assessment, a range of services can be provided.  The type of support can vary and be specifically tailored to meet the needs of each child.

A support plan can be devised in participation with the child encompassing one, or a combination of services available as part of their recovery process.


1:1 Sessions

Individual sessions can be offered to listen and talk through any worries or problems the child might have.  These sessions offer quality time for children to work through difficult feelings through free expression, in a confidential environment, in order to make sense of their experiences.


Group Sessions

Children can part of a small group and engage in sessions in order to build self-esteem, boost confidence and develop social skills.  These sessions offer the opportunity for children to build trusting relationships, develop their self-awareness and empathy towards others in a non-judgemental way.



Occasional day trips can be organised during school holidays to cater for interests and hobbies identified by the children.  Excursions and fun activities can provide opportunities for children to experience a range of pursuits promoting positive socialisation.


Family Work

Partnership working can be offered to families in order to support children cope with difficult home circumstances.  This can be as a consultation with parents, facilitated family sessions and engagement in self-esteem and parenting group work.


General Advice and Information

Support can be offered to children and their families who just want advice and information on local services.  This can be offered by meeting up informally or a chat over the phone.



Children are far more aware of domestic abuse than adults realise, or give them credit for.  Even if they do not actually witness it, they hear it and can sense the atmosphere.

If you would like to discuss any concerns you may have regarding children you suspect are suffering the effects of domestic abuse, please contact us on 01737 771350.


Children’s Services (formerly known as Social Services) are the lead agency for Child Protection.  If you have any concerns about the safety of a child, please contact them on:  08456 009009.




Outreach Services for Children and Young People



Free 24 Hour Helpline for Children & Young People

0800 1111


Family Line

0808 800 5678 free phone 9am-5pm Mon-Fri

or email


Lone Parent Helpline

Free Confidential Advice & Information

0800 0185026



24 Hour Child Protection Helpline

0800 800 500


Relateen (Reigate)

Offers advice for 11-25 year olds with relationship difficulties

01737 245212


Surrey Safeguarding Child’s Board

0300 200 1006 follow the links for children and families




Telephone  0800 014 9084




The CRUSH Project – Helping Young People Make Safe Healthy Relationships.

CRUSH is a structured programme of group support and empowerment for anyone in the age range of 13-19 that is at risk of or suffering from domestic abuse. It is for both males and females that have witnessed, experienced or perpetrated any form of domestic abuse.


Get Connected

Daily 1pm – 11pm

Telephone  0808 808 4994



Free telephone and email helpline finding young people the best help whatever the problem, can connect a child or young person to any UK helpline where appropriate.



Text Chat Service: 07537 402 024 (standard SMS rates apply)  A webchat service 9am-3pm and Ask Brook 24/7 tool through the Brook website.



Brook is a charity with over 50 years experience and offers services around the UK offering free and confidential sexual health advice, contraception and counselling to all young people under the age of 25.


Ask Brook offers a confidential interactive text and webchat service offering information, support and signposting service Monday to Friday.


Heart (run by Childline)

24 hours

Telephone  0808 1111



Heart is an EU-funded programme that offers help and advice to young people on having healthy relationships with boy or girl friends. It is particularly concerned where young people are feeling pressurised into something they don’t want to do. It runs a 24-hour, anonymous and confidential helpline, supplied by Childline.



Monday – Friday 10am – 1pm and 2pm – 5pm

Telephone  0808 802 4040




Respect runs support services and programmes for men and women who inflict violence in relationships. They also provide an advice line for men who are victims of domestic violence.


Rape Crisis Centres

Daily, 12pm – 2:30pm and 7pm – 9:30 pm CREATE A 'HELP FOR SEXUAL ABUSE TAB AND INCLUDE'

Telephone  0808 802 9999



Rape Crisis Centres offer a range of services for women and girls who have been raped or experienced another form of sexual violence.  Rape Crisis Centres are not just for women in ‘crisis’ – many women contact them years after they have been raped or sexually abused.  You can contact the National Sexual Violence Helpline for help and advice and can find contact details for your nearest Rape Crisis Centre on Rape Crisis’ website.


Respect Not Fear



The Respect not Fear site was developed by the Nottinghamshire domestic violence forum, in consultation with young people. The site contains games and advice which can help you think about your relationships, or you can make a pledge to find out what you can expect in a relationship and what shouldn’t be tolerated. The Respect not Fear App is free and provides you with games such as the pyramid and respect’o’meter, it also gives you instant access to important information and support services. Download the app from the Apple store.

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01737 771350



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Useful Numbers:


Surrey Domestic Abuse 9am - 9pm Helpline 01483 776822


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999 (emergency) 
101 (non-emergency)

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